I won't say i am a perfect flawless being however there are a lot of social notions that disturb me.These are the ones that are all around us in our homes and all the places we are closely related to.
Humans are blessed with innate executive functions of which judgement and analytical reasoning is one of the meta cognitive or executive function of the brain.However the violation of these creates a ruffle in the society and somewhere consciously or sub consciously we are playing with the sentiments of our fellow beings.
In simple words the speed at which we judge ,assume and conclude about people ,situation and matters is competitive to the speed of light.I have come across this splinter skills of many people closely .
I will narrate one incidence, Once i was sitting with one of my junior and discussing about some project. We were talking about the potential people and their strengths when he casually made a remark over one of my known person stating 'this guy according to me is a looser,look at his failures,i don't think he is good at anything or can do much with life'
I paused him ,on a serious note asked him "What makes you say that?" He continued with some blabbering..
I stopped him and said "How much do you know him and his skills"
The guy we were talking of is actually good at a lot of things. However his sharp assumption had completely tarnished his image and any potential skill.
I told him calmly "Your way of judging and talking about people is forcing me to judge you further"
Today you are talking in this regard about him,tomorrow you will talk of me"
To this he started covering up ,but i gave him right and left for this kind of small talk .Moreover warned him of being careful further.
What i want to highlight is because i knew the guy about whom this fellow was talking i could stop his talk and defend further.If not i would have anyway stopped him ,however some impression must have been created in my mind.
This happens so often we are so rigid in our thoughts that we refuse to give benefit of doubt or for that matter bring in the possibility of probability.
Judgement is a survival skill but assumption has a detrimental effect.I have seen shattered relations and rift in life because of its excessive presence.
Lets make an effort to keep our life simple.Rather than concluding find out the truth.If each of us make an effort to crackdown the heap of assumptions we live in ,a lot can get sorted.
-SSW
Humans are blessed with innate executive functions of which judgement and analytical reasoning is one of the meta cognitive or executive function of the brain.However the violation of these creates a ruffle in the society and somewhere consciously or sub consciously we are playing with the sentiments of our fellow beings.
In simple words the speed at which we judge ,assume and conclude about people ,situation and matters is competitive to the speed of light.I have come across this splinter skills of many people closely .
I will narrate one incidence, Once i was sitting with one of my junior and discussing about some project. We were talking about the potential people and their strengths when he casually made a remark over one of my known person stating 'this guy according to me is a looser,look at his failures,i don't think he is good at anything or can do much with life'
I paused him ,on a serious note asked him "What makes you say that?" He continued with some blabbering..
I stopped him and said "How much do you know him and his skills"
The guy we were talking of is actually good at a lot of things. However his sharp assumption had completely tarnished his image and any potential skill.
I told him calmly "Your way of judging and talking about people is forcing me to judge you further"
Today you are talking in this regard about him,tomorrow you will talk of me"
To this he started covering up ,but i gave him right and left for this kind of small talk .Moreover warned him of being careful further.
What i want to highlight is because i knew the guy about whom this fellow was talking i could stop his talk and defend further.If not i would have anyway stopped him ,however some impression must have been created in my mind.
This happens so often we are so rigid in our thoughts that we refuse to give benefit of doubt or for that matter bring in the possibility of probability.
Judgement is a survival skill but assumption has a detrimental effect.I have seen shattered relations and rift in life because of its excessive presence.
Lets make an effort to keep our life simple.Rather than concluding find out the truth.If each of us make an effort to crackdown the heap of assumptions we live in ,a lot can get sorted.
-SSW
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