Thursday, 12 June 2014

Pride with Prejudice



Virginity should not be regarded as a girl's character certificate according to me. What's your take? #Virginity  

                                    Here's My Take!

Well,this is a very sensitive topic as the tittle itself got so many thoughts running in my mind that i don't know from where to pick up.

 Rightly said;
 “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”
John Woode
A person's character is that mirror which not only shows to the world who he is but also how he has been brought up.It is a combination of umpteenth things that distinguishes one from the other.

If you create a list to design a character certificate,i will place Virginity in the top orders.True, that there are multitude of things to define a person's character and Virginity should not be looked as the only one but it is significant one.And this is is not specific to XX ,rather it holds equal for both XX and XY chromosome.Don't take me wrong here,i have more to add.
Protecting ones dignity is as important as safeguarding your Life.No matter how much of Westernization and Globalization inflicts ,yet i will stand for the moral values and right culture which i should follow.
One Night stand is a cool word these days and is becoming more popular in the middle age group.Moreover, it is very well justified by the word ,Its Okay! ,Chalta hai & So what?
We Humans are the most superior creation of God,we have been blessed with the intellect of reasoning, rationalizing and understanding.If going around and sleeping with xyz person is really cool ,then i feel there is no difference between us and animals,they do the same.I feel ashamed when people say,he/she is Modern & Advanced.Dude,you are regressing centuries down to the most lowest intellect level.There is something called as Honesty and Loyalty,which is the pillar of Humanity.And,if you fail in that before you are put to test,then i can wonder how will you carry yourself ahead.
 Now,This might go little off the track,but i will never marry a man for whom Love and Lust is same,which in real holds a huge demarcation, according to me.We all have those powerful feelings which drives us towards the act,but what matters is how well you can control yourself and wait for the right time,rather than bouncing on every second person you fall for.May be it is not easy,but not that difficult though.What i mean is be loyal to one you are made for.This was just one aspect which goes for those who carry their heart in sleeves and are always in need to satisfy their Lust.

 The second aspect is one which is very crucial and always looked down by society unfortunately.I am not being biased,but if you talk about a Girl and say that she is characterless because she lost her virginity after being raped,it will indeed be very prejudiced .These days Girls are the prey of some peckish crooks even at the age of 3-4 yrs or at times less.Now,what this poor soul will remember at the age of 20, her only fault would be she was born as a girl.Yet,eyes will be raised on her presence and she will be discussed elsewhere.My thoughts also extend to the widow & divorce  cases(conditions applied) in which she(/he) is prejudged on one aspect before knowing the kind of Gem she(/he) is.

P.S: Although Both the aspects  need serious thought but somewhere we all are caught in this web of Pride with Prejudice.

This post is written for Indispire 16th edition:

Virginity should not be regarded as a girl's character certificate according to me. What's your take? #Virginity


10 comments:

  1. ok thank god i'm reading something sensible....else i thought am i the one old fashioned...with others blah blahing...oh its just a tissue..watever :o

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    1. old fashioned is just a biased term i feel..its all about ones perception ..thanks for appreciating :)

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  2. I don't really understand how the second point is related to the first or to the general gist of the article. Rape and virginity are two entirely different issues that should not be mixed.

    Anyway, a good point made...

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    1. It might not fall in the general gist of the article but somewhere down d line they r related whether v accept it or not

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  3. respecting your views and yes i do believe one should be loyal to one's life partner and being married I know what trust is but again human psychology is too tough to decipher. If one is a virgin and a has lose work ethics is that person more preferable than a person who has got an excellent work ethics? Who is a better child a virgin who leaves her parents in the old age home or someone who is not a virgin and takes care of her parents? Life is too long and dynamic, we change from time to time our mentality changes, a swinger a flirt may turn out to be a perfect wife or husband and be completely faithful because in due time he or she may understand the importance of being loyal and the earlier life style was just a phase. Saying this I believe any monogamous relationship should be based out of trust and if you are hiding your past you are not playing fair and you don't have the strength of character. Strength of Character is not always avoidance of "mistakes" but it is also accepting and confessing your "mistakes". And we as humans should stop judging a person based only on virginity.

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    1. So very true...I don't understand why people judge others so easily, based on only one incident or occurrence

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    2. Datta ma'am ..i respect ur analysis..time is the emperor of life and each moment teaches us the dynamics of life!what i am today i might not be tommrorw cz dis duration might bring in a new lesson! But wat i said is i wont blindly judge a person on his/her virginity...but yes ill keep it on top orders,because safeguarding ur modesty speaks volume about ur understanding of trust!Nyway wht is ur opinion abt call girls???now v cannot rationalize by saying life forced them to adapt to such earnng...v neva know their story and r just judging..xyzzz things...One thing i hv learnt and observed is life gives umpteenth opportunities,v jus hv to keep our eyes open and not leave any stoned unturned...u can walk on another path to bring up ur children!...Nyway its all about individual
      views .i respect urs but i stand for mine :)
      Thankyou for ur feedback..keep visiting..

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  4. Mr. siddharth Sir,its not about one incidence or occurence but rather repetition of same..whts ur call on that?

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