Pride with Prejudice

Virginity should not be regarded as a girl's character certificate according to me. What's your take? #Virginity  

                                    Here's My Take!

Well,this is a very sensitive topic as the tittle itself got so many thoughts running in my mind that i don't know from where to pick up.

 Rightly said;

 “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”
― John Woode

A person's character is that mirror which not only shows to the world who he is but also how he has been brought up.It is a combination of umpteenth things that distinguishes one from the other.

If you create a list to design a character certificate,i will place Virginity in the top orders.True, that there are multitude of things to define a person's character and Virginity should not be looked as the only one but it is significant one.And this is is not specific to XX ,rather it holds equal for both XX and XY chromosome.Don't take me wrong here,i have more to add.

Protecting ones dignity is as important as safeguarding your Life.No matter how much of Westernization and Globalization inflicts ,yet i will stand for the moral values and right culture which i should follow.

One Night stand is a cool word these days and is becoming more popular in the middle age group.Moreover, it is very well justified by the word ,Its Okay! ,Chalta hai & So what?

We Humans are the most superior creation of God,we have been blessed with the intellect of reasoning, rationalizing and understanding.If going around and sleeping with xyz person is really cool ,then i feel there is no difference between us and animals,they do the same.I feel ashamed when people say,he/she is Modern & Advanced.Dude,you are regressing centuries down to the most lowest intellect level.There is something called as Honesty and Loyalty,which is the pillar of Humanity.And,if you fail in that before you are put to test,then i can wonder how will you carry yourself ahead.

 Now,This might go little off the track,but i will never marry a man for whom Love and Lust is same,which in real holds a huge demarcation, according to me.We all have those powerful feelings which drives us towards the act,but what matters is how well you can control yourself and wait for the right time,rather than bouncing on every second person you fall for.May be it is not easy,but not that difficult though.What i mean is be loyal to one you are made for.This was just one aspect which goes for those who carry their heart in sleeves and are always in need to satisfy their Lust.

 The second aspect is one which is very crucial and always looked down by society unfortunately.I am not being biased,but if you talk about a Girl and say that she is characterless because she lost her virginity after being raped,it will indeed be very prejudiced .These days Girls are the prey of some peckish crooks even at the age of 3-4 yrs or at times less.Now,what this poor soul will remember at the age of 20, her only fault would be she was born as a girl.Yet,eyes will be raised on her presence and she will be discussed elsewhere.My thoughts also extend to the widow & divorce  cases(conditions applied) in which she(/he) is prejudged on one aspect before knowing the kind of Gem she(/he) is.

P.S: Although Both the aspects  need serious thought but somewhere we all are caught in this web of Pride with Prejudice.

This post is written for Indispire 16th edition:

Virginity should not be regarded as a girl's character certificate according to me. What's your take? #Virginity

And when Life changes.....

Life before and with IndiBlogger


Although,There is a very short span of time between Life before and after IndiBlogger for me,as it is just one month post joining this wonderful community.But this Short span has brought a huge difference in my Life,like many other bloggers.

Writing has been my Life since a very long time.People called me lost soul at times because be it anywhere a book and diary was my companion all time and with little spare moment i drowned in my sea of rhymes irrespective of whether i am traveling in train or sitting in a lecture.Yes,i used to write poems on my books last pages in the boring lectures,entertaining my friends around.(many times caught although :P)

Then came a day when i shifted from paper pen to keyboard,and that was the day when i created my blog back in 2013,soon after my Final year exam.

I was too lost  and took time to orient to this world of bloggers.I just updated a few of my articles and kept waiting for reviews.(which never came :P).I was dissappointed and later was engrossed in my routine.

My Blog since then was like a Barren land of the Sahara deserts.Neither i visited it nor others.Until last month,when i was wandering alone on my blog and looking out for sites,i happened to join this community.And suddenly my blog turned in to land of Oasis with page views increasing at a steady rate.

Just in mere 15 days i feel so connected to so many people.Its fun to read Like minded people.There is so much of uniqueness in each persons creativity.Their blend of thoughts with words ,their experiences perfectly described with a lesson,inspires me each day to read more people.Although i have never met them,heard them,but merely by reading them i feel i know them(and i wish to actually sit across them one day).I have already become fan of a few,soon ill name them,for its just the beginning.I am now regular at blogging for i have got a direction.No matter how busy i am i still have time to read blogs and update mine.

Although i am a newbie here,but i wish to go a long way to meet the fellow bloggers,join the managing committee,share my views,learn from them and grow along with them.

This post is written for Indispire 16th edition

Life before IndiBlogger and with IndiBlogger. Compare. #FlashbackIndiBlogger

In the Eyes of Beholder

 In the Eyes of Beholder!

 

     She sat by the side of the river course,

On to the rock layered with Mold.

She dangled her legs restlessly,

Her thoughts maundered aimlessly!

She closed her eyes to feel the breeze,

But Lingered in front her dusky cheeks!

Shuddered by it she stood on her toes,

Tumbling back on the uneven Billows!

She pleaded for way to the floor,

But it spoke to her, now no more!

She sat back crying all in vain,

Alas,No ear to listen her Disdain!

She had no clue why she was there,

Her mind rippled in silence everywhere!

Her eyes wandered to slit thy self.,

Her heart pounded to jump in the well!

She spoke to herself and to the world,

Whats the myth with a Girl ?

"My Parents want to get rid of Me,

But no one is there to Hold Me"!

They come at door asking her to be fair

If not,Then dowry will make a good pair!

Poor girl, when wails against in  misery,

They strangulate her soul calling it customary!

She cried and sobbed all hour alone,

Looking at the River,in forlorn.

As her reflection poured Insitu!

Her Red Fabric glowed the Moving Blue!

The freshness of her Henna began to wither,

With it,Drowned her tears in the River!

As she made her mind to end it,

Her soul awakened her to live!

In silence,soon,echoed a voice around,

O' dear, fight Back, do not look down!

She lifted her brows in Astonishment,

Listening to the voice in oblivion!

The Breeze was calm and steady again,

His voice,pierced the silence of disdain!

Whispered in her ears,the sound of Love,

The secret admirer smiled at her dove !

"You want to end your Life for a few,

Who Bark on your steps in Crew!

Do you know the strength you hold,

I know you are a Gem with Gold!

The bounteousness of beauty is at no par,

For it bows down  in front of your heart!

"The Creator so Beautiful has Created You,

For special someone who belongs to you!.

O' My heart,you are the most beautiful soul,

I just want you and nothing more!

Let the world know this my dear,

Beauty Lies in the "Eyes of Beholder"

She smiled midst her rolling tears,

He wiped in silence all her fear!

 The sun set down and they walked by,

Two souls ,now one,waved another day "good Bye"!

-SSW

Being Rich

                                                   Being RICH!

"Beta ,padhai karo tumhe Bada Aadmi nahi banna kya....."I am sure each one of us have grown up listening to this sentence from our well wishers.Now the "bada aadmi" referred here is very obvious "Rich & Wealthy Man" .Right from our childhood we are shown the ultimate goal to attain.This is very much human. Each Parent strives to give Best Education to his child,so that he gets a good position that brings in wealth. After all,Who doesn't like Money?

 Now,Look at these .....
 The Girl sitting there has iphone 5s "She must be Rich ya , Look at her dress" The Guy next door wears only branded clothes "Baday baap ki Aulad hogi" For a wedding,"Gift toh Mehenga hi dena hoga, bohut paise walay hain ye Log...Huh.. To a Friend,Dude,He drives 800,Not of our status", Relatives among themselves "Paise ki koi kami nahi hogi,ghar dekha hai?' I can just keep on giving examples,which are equivalents of the word RICH defined by the world,but the Interpretation of it is very subjective


"Money" is indeed a beautiful word that brings Smile on every face.And ,In this Competitive & Materialistic era, there is no heart who doesn't like an Incentive.And if someone says 'i don't want money' i will never believe, because it is the need for survival.Irrespective of whether you wail in luxuries or strive for basic needs,you require it.And So,Each one is in the Race to be RICH!But the only thing that varies is what Rich means to you.
There is nothing wrong in striving for money but earning by wrong means is no where correct.There is a group of population for whom the demarcation of right & wrong is non existent.They will be the ones for whom Rich means wealth,Bank Balance and nothing else.Culture & value has no space in their room.The Need for more creates such a Mirage that they can exploit anyone for their position.And,sadly these people exist in numbers.

But, somewhere between them grows another group(i fall in that),for whom Richness is more than possessing wealth.It is about understanding yourself.Like many,I want Luxuries but not at the cost of someones happiness but rather as a reward of my hard work & Patience.I am glad there are many such people for whom Money is just "one"component and not the only component, under the broad umbrella term RICH!


My Interpretation:
I feel richness is more about feeling it.And this comes only with a sincere satisfaction.As i said it is very subjective and varies from person to person.I feel so blessed when my friends come to me in their darkest hour for serious advise,When my mother hugs me saying "I am proud of u",when my father says "You are my Son",When my bro comes running"you are the best sister in world'. Being Loved unconditionally & Being trusted blindly is the key to worthiness.The priceless values imbibed in me has earned so much Love & Respect that i feel Rich even before earning money.Moreover,There are lot more things than money to make me feel the same.Small joys,Big laughter,loving others,being loved,helping someone,being qualified,getting wet in the first rain,going on a long drive,battling a tough time,being a part of discussion,reading my favorite book, writing poems,updating my blog etc etc(endless) rejoices my soul to the zenith of satisfaction to make me feel Big.So,If you stop comparing & start enjoying you will feel bigger than Mr.Clinton & Our very own Tata's & Ambani's.Seek and you shall find.It's you & your perception, who can make yourself Rich or poor

Your Richness is not in your Wealth,it is in your soul.

Two extreme examples :
*He stood there smiling in space,his black eyes shined with twinkle as the rays of the sun were falling on his faces and moving back in congregation, the dust on his clothes was marinating with the continuous flowing sweat which he kept wiping with the greasy sleeves.Like everyday, Raghu was walking on the same lane but today the road seemed more merry,because he was unusually happy,as he had earned enough today, to bring a stomach filling food for his family for the rest two weeks.
Wait, on his way he meets his co- worker who is in disdain ,about his ailing child & the medical expense.Without a thought he gives away half of his wage,inspite of knowing that the remaining money will either fill his stomach or his children's.His friend's heart was soon filled with Love & respect for Raghu which could be sensed by his running tears.So,what do you think ,Is Raghu Rich?


*Miss Anita is a jewellry designer,an Intellectual  and a party woman who has all the Luxuries we often dream of. She also runs an NGO which provides jewellery to the underprivileged  families during a Girls wedding.Today she was meeting a friend who had a tragic crash down in business.Anita was worried about her plight & was planning up possible ways to help her out.As she was looking out of the window plane,she jumped on her seat asking driver to halt there itself.The driver was perplexed at that moment asking Why ...as the CCD had not yet arrived.Anita made an excuse saying she will walk up as she has some work on the next road.Also,she told the driver to pick her up from the same point.The driver was surprised & Left from the spot.Anita  did not want  her friend to feel low or inferior of traveling in a public transport.She was considerate of her self respect and so decided to walk up.What a Humble thought.She is indeed very Rich just like Raghu!

 There is a day you are going to go in Ashes,leaving all your wealth behind & carry only blessings along.


As Allama Iqbal says:
Mout, Tajdeed-e-Mazaq-e-Zindagi Ka Naam Hai
Khawab Ke Parde Mein Baidari Ka Ek Paigham Hai

Death is the name of the renewal of the taste for life.
In the veil of sleep, it is a message of awakening.

So,Wake up from the mere chase of money before its too late.

The Blessed Lord said: Fearlessness, purity of temperament, steadfastness in the Yoga of Knowledge, giving, self-control, sacrifice, the study of Scripture, askesis, candour and straightforwardness, harmlessness, truth, absence of wrath, self-denial, calm, absence of fault-finding, compassion to all beings, absence of greed, gentleness, modesty, freedom from restlessness, energy, forgiveness, patience, cleanness, absence of envy and pride – these are the wealth of the man born into the Deva nature.  
Bhagwad Gita:chp 17 verse 1-3

You will be remembered for who you were & not what you had.

#Conquering your desires by channelizing it in right way & smiling with the smallest joy will make you Richer than the Richest. 

This post is in response to Indispire 15th edition: 

RICH. Write a post on your interpretation of this word. #RICH